Ugh, Luke, that is an awful story about your friend’s step brother. So so so sorry to hear that.
It’s definitely hard because we all have such different experiences. Early on, my sister personally knew several very healthy and fit men (ages aprox 55-62 ish) die from covid, but then I knew other people who only saw it happening to very old out of shape people, or no one at all. One of those guys out of an abundance of caution went to the hospital but they sent him home saying you are not very sick… he died that night.
I know plenty of people, including on here, who say they don’t see any bad cases anymore, but I know people here who in the last year have had it and said it was the sickest they’ve been in their life. I think in both cases, people are telling the truth.
Only last year, another friend here had a stroke and her doc thinks it was from her recent case of covid… she is now fine and I am not sure we can ever link those cases without doubt, but ?
On reporting…
I got a covid vax very early on and I had an unimaginable reaction. Obviously not myocarditis territory but bad enough that I couldn’t drive for weeks. I did report it and even tweeted about it because I was scared at the time as there was so little info out there, and I had not heard about bad reactions. I was in shock that no one was trying to get in touch with me. Many many months later someone contacted me, but at this point I don’t remember the particulars. I don’t remember responding to them.
My PT finally came to my house and ‘cured’ me in aprox 10 minutes. He said he reset my autonomic system. I can’t explain it!
After another vax, I had another bad reaction so my cardiologist had me to go UCSF for a lot of testing just to be safe than sorry. I was fine. They did tell me they were seeing a lot of stuff from the vaccines… but no surprise, they were seeing significantly worse and more cases from covid itself.
All this is to say, you are probably correct in that things were under reported and side effects from the vax were obviously very real. I just personally knew of enough people my age, and much fitter than I am, who were dying or getting long covid that risking bad reactions to the vax was a no brainer for me. I realize this is easy for me to say because my reactions were all only temporary.
I haven’t personally heard of anything negative from the vaccines in ages and I no longer have bad reactions either, but I still know people getting bad cases of covid. The people I know have been vaxxed, so theoretically their covid was more mild than had they not been.